I’m just sitting in my study lounge, which is actually called S.T.A.R. (an acronym for study, tutor, and read) and talking to my friend John. He has a cool blog by the way. He actually has a theme with his posts. I’m like all over the place with my sporatic thoughts. My friend just broke up with her boyfriend. It’s like break-up season I think. I feel like most of the people I talk to are going through that phase getting over someone. It’s sad really. We came up with the phases of a break-up (although it varies).
1. Denial (basically) – You tell yourself and everyone else that you are fine and you are better off. You can actually keep up a smile and be relatively happy for a few days max.
2.The breakdown- The worst and most depressing/pathetic part of a break up. You feel like you can’t function without his touch. It takes extreme will-power not to send him a cute little text that says, “hey what’s up? thinking of you
“. You don’t see the point in making plans or going out. It’s really tragic. You may even be expecting him to call you back and say, “I’ve made a terrible mistake!” You are hoping for that. Your playlist consists of Alanis Morrissette, old Green day, and Journey.
3.Friend Intervention- Your friends are sick of all your quoting emo songs and refusal to shower. They drag you out for some “girls night out” type fun. You then realize that there are a lot of “other fish in the sea” and your spirits are lifted. You now can resume doing your daily activities like showering and attending class, but the nights are still sad because you don’t have your nightly day recap chats with your boo.
4.Relapse/Move on- This phase is what separates the ones that hold on to the past for too long from the ones that can get up and go! You may go back into a slump or pick up your life, still holding a sad thought or two. Every once in awhile you may think of the good times you had, but it doesn’t stop you from doing anything! You may not be ready to date again, but you don’t feel bad looking anymore
5.New Boo- Oh the bliss of a new relationship! Hopefully this is the one or it’ll happen all over again!
Note: I just made all this up.
In my Social Psychology class we were discussing which sex tends to be more romantic. It turns out that men are more romantic initially, while women are more cautious. Then there is this point when women decide that they are allowed to fall in love with this guy. That is the point when the romantic-ness of the women surpasses the man’s romantic-ness. This is the point when it sucks to get broken up with the most. Sorry

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Tags: Acronyms, Boyfriend, Break-up, Denial, Friend, Intervention, Lounge, Men, Phases, Psychology, Relapse, Romantic, Steps, Study, Women